Talking with adult children about the family's tax and estate documents
Parents often put off talking with adult children about family assets because the conversation feels like it is about money, fairness, and expectations. Those are family matters, and no tax preparer should referee them. But there is a narrower conversation that is easier to have and harder to skip: what tax and estate documents exist, where they are, who the children will need to call, and what the children are already responsible for on their own returns. Children who know those facts are less likely to miss a filing, lose a basis record, or learn about a trust from an IRS notice. This post covers what adult children should know about the family's tax and estate documents, and what the parents can share without discussing amounts or plans they want to keep private. It is not family counseling, it does not recommend how much to share, and it is not estate planning or legal advice. Separate the facts from the numbers Most families can share the existence and location of documen...